When You Can No Longer Care for Your Love One

When You Can No Longer Care for Your Love One

As a dedicated son or daughter, husband or wife, you hope that you never need to put your loved one in a long-term care facility. You do all that you can to help your loved one live with Alzheimer’s disease. Protecting and caring for that individual is a part of your life everyday, but you wouldn’t have it any other way.

Even though you are devoted to your loved one and might even have promised that person that he or she never would have to live in a long term care community, the time might come when, in fact, it becomes necessary for your family member to move out of your home. You are likely to struggle and agonize over this decision. Even if you decide it is what is best for your loved one and for your entire family, you probably still will feel guilty.

When telling loved ones that you can no longer care for them on their own, they might become angry with you. They also might not understand, and become very sad or agitated. This is to be expected. But you must do what is best for everyone involved, even if the decision is emotional, and even if experience feelings of guilt.

Should that dreaded day come when you must move a loved one to a facility that cares for Alzheimer’s patients, keep in mind that you probably are doing what is best. There are many valid reasons for making this decision, even if it is the last thing you ever want to do.

There might be financial reasons as to why you no longer can care for your loved one. During the hours when you are away at work, you might need to pay for a private duty nurse or aide, which can become very expensive. The expenses related to your loved one’s everyday care also could become rather costly. If your loved one needs a high level of care, you likely are missing time from work. If this happens to often, you could be risking your job or losing out on pay that you cannot afford to lose.

When caring for a family member with Alzheimer’s disease, you might be seeing a progression of the disease. If the disease becomes too bad, it might be overwhelming for you to continue providing care. You might not be able to provide all the safety and care that your loved one needs. In cases like this, it might be better for your family member to live in a safe community with caregivers who specialize in Alzheimer’s disease.

Spouses of individuals with Alzheimer’s disease often have their own unique challenges. These individuals often are aging as well and sometimes can have declining health. It may be too difficult for you as a spouse to continue to care for your loved one. Continuing to care for a spouse with Alzheimer’s could put your own health at greater risk. Again, if you are not as strong or as well as you once were, you might not be able loved one.